I was reading a book of my favorite writer and found something that was more then interesting.....It sounded a lot more convincing and I totally agree with it.....
"At one seminar where I was speaking on the concept of proactivity, a man came up and said, “Stephan, I like what you’re saying. But every situation is so different. Look at my marriage. I’m really worried. My wife and I just don’t have the same feelings for each other we used to have. I guess I just don’t love her anymore and she doesn’t love me. What can I do?”
“The feeling isn’t there anymore?”, I asked.
“That’s right,”, he reaffirmed, “And we have three children we’re really concerned about. What do you suggest?”
“Love her,” I replied.
“I told you, the feeling isn’t there anymore.”
“Love her”
“You don’t understand. The feeling of love just isn’t there”
“Then love her. If the feeling isn’t there, that’s a good reason to love her.”
“But how do you love when you don’t love?”
“My friend, love is a verb. Love- the feeling – is a fruit of love, the verb. So love here. Serve her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?”
In the great literature of all progressive societies, love is a verb. Reactive people make it a feeling. They’re driven by feeling. Hollywood has generally scripted us to believe that we are not responsible, that we are a product of our feelings. But the Hollywood script does not describe the reality. If our feelings control over actions, it is because we have abdicated our responsibilities and empowered them to do so."....(Stephen Covey)
"At one seminar where I was speaking on the concept of proactivity, a man came up and said, “Stephan, I like what you’re saying. But every situation is so different. Look at my marriage. I’m really worried. My wife and I just don’t have the same feelings for each other we used to have. I guess I just don’t love her anymore and she doesn’t love me. What can I do?”
“The feeling isn’t there anymore?”, I asked.
“That’s right,”, he reaffirmed, “And we have three children we’re really concerned about. What do you suggest?”
“Love her,” I replied.
“I told you, the feeling isn’t there anymore.”
“Love her”
“You don’t understand. The feeling of love just isn’t there”
“Then love her. If the feeling isn’t there, that’s a good reason to love her.”
“But how do you love when you don’t love?”
“My friend, love is a verb. Love- the feeling – is a fruit of love, the verb. So love here. Serve her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?”
In the great literature of all progressive societies, love is a verb. Reactive people make it a feeling. They’re driven by feeling. Hollywood has generally scripted us to believe that we are not responsible, that we are a product of our feelings. But the Hollywood script does not describe the reality. If our feelings control over actions, it is because we have abdicated our responsibilities and empowered them to do so."....(Stephen Covey)
I do agree with the idea of 'Love Her'.
ReplyDeleteBut I also somehow believe that love and hate are feelings too. Sometimes there is a very good person out there, and you just cannot like him. And you cant even explain why.
Same is, when there is a person you know nothing about. YOu dont even have any certainty that whether he'd be yours in the future or not, but you still have 'feelings' for him..
it IS a feeling. But a feeling that comes with responsibility and 'actions' such as, appreciation, listening etc :)
Do i make sense? :P Cos I dont think I do!
Oh wait, dont tell me you're IN love with someone :P
ReplyDeleteI agree with you At large, but still, if we like someone or dislike, there should be some tangible reasons, Just 'feeling' isn't good enough...
ReplyDelete(See i am changing and pretending to be sophisticated...are you impressed..?)
I in love with someone? I don't hide anything from you, do you think i am in love?
Well..
ReplyDeleteThere are reasons ofcourse. Like Ranbir Kapoor being extraordinarily cute.. Logan being really hot.. and and.. many more reasons you know :P hehehee..
Well, on a serious note, No I am NOT impressed. You're still the same to me :P
And well, I dont know if you seem to be in love or not. and it wouldnt really matter cos we all are still looking for your 'geet' to be married to (ofcourse you'll marry her, not 'us') :P So you better fall in love with her, the dabangg voice geet :P hehe